She tore it open to find a piece of paper with the word “Alien” on it then proceeded to unroll the bubble wrap to find...a piece of insulation! 😂 He's been redoing the insulation in their house & he sent her a mysterious looking piece of it. And that was it! It's hilarious. And she loved it.
This gift has brought up a few seemingly random things I want to remember about Doug:
His preference is not to handwrite anything. Every personal check we’ve ever received from Doug & Kathy has always been typed out with just the signature in ink.
He has a quiet sense of humor. This reminds me of the time when Jack & I were dating & Kathy had written a note next to their home phone (back when everyone had home phones) that said “Jack, Anupa called you.” Underneath it, in small letters Doug wrote “a jerk.” It was subtle and hilarious. Kind of like this.
For his birthday, all of us gifted Doug a subscription to this service called “Storyworth.” It’s basically a company that sends Doug writing prompts at regular intervals & his responses to the prompts are emailed out to everyone in the family. The questions are ones that reflect back on his life and childhood and reading his responses has been incredible. Since Doug is very quiet, I don’t feel like I know him as well as I’d like. But Doug is a prolific writer and his responses to these writing prompts are long and detailed. I find myself excited on the Monday mornings I receive his emails because it’s an opportunity to learn about what Doug thinks and feels.
Sometimes I mistake Doug’s stoicism & introversion for apathy towards us, but little things like this are evidence that while he doesn’t always show it in traditional ways, he does think about & love his family members. And he might have a soft spot for Malini?
In any case, his gesture has blown my mind. 🤯😍😋🤩🤣